Man left with tough decision whether to separate his three cats or let them go furrever after breakup with girlfriend of four years

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Mar 28, 2026 1:00 PM EDT

Once you've been dating for so long, it becomes harder and harder to break up. 

This is one of those stories you just feel inclined to follow and see what happens. The couple has been together for 4 years, but they've decided to split. It's never easy to go through a breakup, but especially hard when you share animals together. They have three cats – Tuxedo (4-years-old), Void (3-years-old), and Tabby (8 months old). His initial thought was that the older two would go with her and he'd keep the youngest. But he's really grown attached to the cats, and the thought of losing both the older cats is hurting him. The Void cat is his baby, but the Tuxedo cat is hers, but the Tuxedo and Void are also best friends. He wonders if the best place for the Void is with his older brother, or if it's with him. He isn't sure, and asks the internet about how to know who is more bonded. The Tuxedo and Void groom each other, play together, share resources, and sleep near each other. It's not easy to imagine that they'd leave each other, and he feels very stuck. Comment below what you think he should do. 

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    Basically what the title says. My gf of 4yrs and I have decided to part ways, but we have three cats. (Tuxedo is 4yr, Void is 3yr, and Tabby is 8months)
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    The initial thought was the older two would go with her and I'd keep the youngest. But the
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    thought of losing both my older boys is killing me. The void particular has always been my
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    shadow and I'm really attached to him. We had decided on this because the tuxedo is her soul
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    cat, I can't imagine keeping them apart, and we thought the void would be happier staying with the tuxedo than being separated.
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    If the best place for him is with his older brother I can accept that, but I'm wondering if there's
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  • Breakups are so difficult. They're one of the most disorienting emotional experiences we go through. Even if you know it's the absolute right thing to do, there's so much loss involved. You start a life with someone, all for it to fall apart. You share moments together, love, intimacy, and get to know each other on so many levels just for it to fizzle out and dissolve. It's not just the person you miss after a breakup, it's the routines, the shared life together, the text messages and inside jokes, the small habits that shape your days. In the beginning, everything is like a harsh cut. But over time, the intensity softens and the memories can be seen through a different lens. You might have days where you miss them more, and days where you miss them less. But breakups are one of the most painful experiences, and I can't imagine having to go through one and also move out of my place, find somewhere new to live, or give up a pet. 

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    a way to know who's "more" bonded I guess?
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    The older two have always groomed each other, played together, shared resources, ect though they're not super cuddly.
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    They prefer to sleep near each other instead of together. The
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    kitten they both will cuddle with and do all of the same activities. So I feel really stuck.
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    Any advice for determining the best homes for them? I know my ex will love them and treat them
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    well so I'm not worried about that piece of it. I really just want to make sure they're okay even if I can't be with them.
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    Info that. Said I need to include: Not a minor USA
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    I have a wonderful vet Main issue: figuring out how to split up cats in a breakup
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    Cat Ages: Tuxedo 4, Void 3, Tabby 8m all males and neutered Yes I can afford vet care
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    spongebobs_pan... If you think she's going to take good care of them just let her keep the cats, don't split them up.
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